Child Abuse

From LoveToKnow Kids

Although it is something we don't like to think about, child abuse is a reality for far too many children. In fact, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that nearly one million kids were abused in 2003. Another 1,500 actually died from abuse.

Recognizing Abuse

When it comes to child abuse, it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between discipline and abuse. If, for example, you do not believe in spanking, you may be unclear as to whether a spanked child is being abused or disciplined. While there may be a fine line between discipline and abuse, intent is often a clarifying factor. True discipline is meant to teach and to guide, not to inflict lasting pain. Any "discipline" that leaves lingering redness or bruises has crossed the line.

Types of Abuse

It is also important to note that there are different types of child abuse. While it is pretty obvious that a child with burns and welts is being abused, other types of abuse are sometimes harder to detect. In general, any behavior that causes lasting pain, neglect, or degradation is abusive. Abuse can fall under any of the following categories:

Physical abuse: kicking, slapping, biting, pushing, shaking, choking, burning, cutting, and hitting with objects.
Sexual abuse: inappropriate touching or fondling, with or without penetration.
Emotional abuse: name-calling, insulting, belittling, degrading, shaming, and rejecting.
Neglect: failing to provide food, water, shelter, clothing, hygiene, medical care, love, and other basic needs.

Signs of Child Abuse

One of the most important things you can do as a parent or a teacher is to learn to recognize the signs of abuse. While many signs are subtle, others are quite blatant-- if you know what to look for. Signs of abuse will vary depending on the type of abuse, but children who are being mistreated frequently exhibit some or all of the following:

Unexplained bruises, welts, or burns
Extremely antisocial or aggressive behavior
Sudden withdrawal or fear
Depression or prolonged sadness
Sudden behavior problems
Sudden drop in grades
Acting fearful or timid around one particular person
Fear of physical contact
Inappropriate knowledge of sex
Inappropriate interest in sexual activity, including sexual play with dolls
Sudden and prolonged bedwetting (an isolated incident is not a sign of abuse)
Eating disorders

How You Can Help

If you suspect a child is being abused, it is natural to feel confused. You will likely second guess yourself and be afraid of making a false accusation. You must overcome this. The child's safety is of utmost importance. If she is being abused, time is of the essence. Besides, your identity will be protected; no one will ever know you made the report. Here's how to report abuse:

If you feel the child's life is in danger, call 911 or your local police.
If the situation is less urgent, call your local Child Protective Services (CPS).
If you are unable to find a local or state number, you can also call Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD.

Preventing Child Abuse

As with most things in life, prevention is key. If you fear that you could become abusive, it is important to seek help. You can call Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD for guidance and assistance.