Girl Slapped My Daughter and Made Her Nose Bleed

My daughter was playing around with a girl she thought was a friend. Not a close friend, but they’ve always gotten along okay. She tried to pop the other girl’s bubble gum bubble. The girl looked at her for a minute and then smacked my daughter hard enough to make her nose bleed.

The principal doesn’t seem like he is going to do anything about this incident and now I’m concerned about what this girl might try next if she is allowed to get by with this. I really felt they should have given her in-school suspension for the day or SOMETHING. Instead, they just took the girl’s word that she didn’t “mean to hit Hailey that hard” and she said Hailey bumped her arm, so they are taking “no action”.

I’m pretty upset. If my daughter hadn’t pleaded with me to let her stay, I would have been going tomorrow to withdraw her and homeschool again. I just can’t believe they aren’t going to do anything about it. Also, the principle asked if Hailey was just trying to get out of class. Hello! As if someone would bloody their own nose to get out of class. I really don’t even know where that question came from, since my daughter likes school and never wants to mis.

Has anyone else ever run into this type of problem? I’m so frustrated right now.

Oh Lori, I am so sorry this happened.  You have every right to be upset.  I cannot even believe the principal asked if your daughter was trying to get out of school. 

Last year my son was bullied.  A little boy threatened to choke him.  The teacher and the principal were both on top of the situation and watching to make sure this boy was not threatening anyone.  I did find out that his parents have seperated this year, so I am guessing that he was acting out frustrations from home.  My son ended up being on the same baseball team as him and now they are in the same class.  It seems to be better, but this boy does now have a reputation of being a bully.

I do have to say our school has Blue Ribbon Week, which is to discouraging bullying.  I love that they put so much attention into discouraging this behavior.

I hope that girl learned her lesson and I hope your daughter’s nose is alright. How old is the girl?  It is not normal for kids to slap other kids like that. There must be something going on with her.

The little girl is twelve, so old enough to know better. I know that the principal called them all down several times to find out what happened, so I am hoping that is enough to keep her from doing it again. We’ll just have to see.

I really don’t think they gave her any consequences for her actions other than talking to her, so she may try it again. The term “hissy fit” probably won’t describe how I’ll react if this girl hits her again when there were no consequences for her behavior the first time.

I guess I am a big believer in consequence learning. If the school informed me that my daughter has slapped someone that hard, I would make her apologize to the girl and would then ground her from phone, going places and electronics for a week or two along with a good talking to about violence not solving things. If there are no consequences, what have they learned?

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. I really felt the girl should have at least been given a detention or in-school suspension, but my daughter seems to be handling it okay. She said if the girl hits her again, she is knocking her down. That sounded about right to me. LOL

Your daughter sounds very smart.  LOL I totally agree with you in regards to the consequences.  I have a neighbor, who literally shares a wire fence with me.  She has two kids that are the same age as my two youngest.  They are from a different country and I know they raise their children differently than I do.  Anyway, a long story short her son is very physical and tends to hurt my son.  It happened more when they were younger.  His mother would always say, “They are just being boys.”  She would never give him consequences.  Now when my son would do something to him, I almost felt like such a mean mom.  He would have to apologize and then he would get a consequence.  She would tell me that it was not big deal and not to worry about it.  Again, just different ways of bringing up kids.  It was, however, frustrating for me.  He is now a very nice young boy.  He still hurts my son periodically, but not on purpose.  I think he just gets overly excited.  My oldest son used to be like that.  I do, however, separate them if it gets out of control.

Anyway, I think you are right on.  I hope she never bothers your daughter again.  Actually, she better hope she never bothers your daughter again. 

Christine, you were teaching your son to be kind and apologize for doing wrong. That is never a bad thing. I think you will see the difference when both boys are raised.

I agree with you. My daughter is sweet can be a real stinker if you push her too far. I think this girl has pushed her as far as she can. LOL

When I first read this I thought the other girl must be around 7 or 8, but 12?! She should certainly know better at that age. I know it must be hard for you to send your daughter to school knowing that stuff like this can happen. I hope that other girl calms down and doesn’t do anything like that again.